Mothers and "would be mothers" must still take time to have fun. They shouldn't worry too much or feel guilty about wanting to go shopping or buying something for themselves or go places. Their babies are going to absorb all that loneliness and resentment inside of them so mothers need to try their best to get rid of every bit of it. Go to a nearby beach and don't worry too much about what you are going to spend. You can always earn that back because you are a hardworking mother.